Print Mon, Mar 16, 2015 - 11:43 AM
Humanists can conduct their weddings anywhere! There are many non-denominational officiants, as well as judges and clerks of one's county. One can be married in one's home, a beach, the forest, a mountaintop, a bar, a VFW Lodge, a reception or banquet hall, skydiving, scuba diving, skiing, etc. The options are essentially limitless! If having one's marriage officiated by a religious, non-religious, or legal officiant is not important to a humanist, one can always have a "common law" marriage (although some states do not legally recognize a "common law" marriage, there are many relationships that qualify). In fact, I have been with the same man for 29 (almost 30!) years. We decided not to get married, but instead to live in a relationship of mutual respect and admiration. We have been together longer than most married couples I know! Humanists take committed relationships just as seriously as a religious person. A marriage isn't about the piece of paper; it is about the deep and abiding love and respect between two people. Having that love sanctioned by a religious organization, or even the state, just isn't all that necessary for most humanists. As for any questions on the "benefits" of legally or religiously sanctioned married ... Many states recognize domestic partnerships. Setting up wills, estates, beneficiaries, powers of attorney, etc. to a non-spouse is easy. Having, adopting, and raising children is no problem. Buying a house? Easy peasy. The only real hurdle anymore is in a same-sex marriage ... but even that is changing! Marriage is a partnership ... as long as both parties are invested in the partnership, the marriage will last. Who officiated the wedding ceremony is not important. Besides, as long as the marriage is between two consenting adults, who officiates does not really matter. Cheers.